The word whom is rarely used in English anymore. There are the very grammatically correct, who use it in an appropriate, albeit old-fashioned way. And there are others, who insist on continuing to use an outdated word incorrectly.

To help prevent my poor ears from being offended by such things, I thought I’d explain the difference.

‘Who’ is a nominative relative pronoun, while ‘whom’ is an accusative relative pronoun.

For most people that sentence should make no sense whatsoever. The only reason I understand it myself is that I’ve spent the last three weeks intensively studying Ancient Greek. Surprisingly it’s taught me a lot about English grammar.

First off, a relative pronoun always takes the place of a noun (who, which, etc). The slight difference between ‘who’ and ‘whom’ is due to the purpose of the noun that is replaced.

The subject is effectively the noun that does the verb, and should be in the nominative case. The noun that the verb acts on is the direct object, and should be in the accusative (for the most part).

For example: ‘the man eats the cake’

Man is the subject, (doing the eating), and should be in the nominative case. The cake as the direct object (being eaten) should be in the accusative case. Now, unlike in Greek, or Latin, or even German, this doesn’t usually matter too much in English…

Until you try to use the word ‘who’. It is the man who eats the cake. And the cake (if you were to personify it) whom the man eats.

If I were to turn the sentence around, and have a suddenly carnivorous (and grammatically correct) cake: ‘The cake eats the man’, then the man would become a ‘whom’. The man ‘whom’ the cake ate…

The cake is now the one doing the action, and so it is ‘the cake who eats’.

If all the grammar talk is going to in one ear and out the other (as it should!) let’s use another method. When in doubt, try the replacement trick!

The difference between who and whom is the same as the difference between he and him: a swap that we make automatically.

He is the equivalent of who, while him is the equivalent of whom.

So, if he ate the cake, you would say “who ate the cake?”

Since the cake ate him, you would say “whom did the cake eat?”

To make life even more confusing, if you’re using a copula verb  in your sentence, then both the subject and the direct object (man and cake) should be in the same case (nominative), and thus ‘who’. Unfortunately, copulaverb include ‘to be’. So every time you say ‘I am’, ‘you are’, ‘he is’, etc, you’re using a copula verb.

Personally, I think we should simplify things and take the word whom out of the Oxford Dictionary. English is a living language, meaning that it continually evolves. If they can acknowledge the extent of its evolution by adding the verb ‘to google’, surely they can acknowledge that no one cares about the word whom anymore, and remove it from the dictionary.

I received an excessively polite email from Voiceworks a little over a week ago, thanking me for my submission. It went on to inform me that due to a high number of submissions, they expected to be able to inform us of the success or failure of our poetry in early August. Feedback on rejected submissions ought to be sent by September.

Well. Given that I’m wanting feedback rather than expecting publication at this stage, it’s going to be a fairly long wait!

I suppose this is why we’re encouraged to submit continually (once a week). In three months or so we’ll start receiving weekly feedback.

It would be nice, but it involves knowing where to submit to, and working out all the dates. Not to mention have hundreds of different poems complete and ready for publication. It’s considered pretty bad form to send out the one poem, or suite of poems, to multiple editors.

I find that in the week or so since I received the email, I’ve been trying to figure out how to submit regularly. It’s resulted in me spending more time searching for potential publications than I’ve spent writing poetry.

For all that it seemed a great idea in my first flush of enthusiasm, it seems silly now. I’m in no rush to submit, or get published. Obviously I want people to read my poetry, and I’d like them to feel something because of it. However, even if no one ever read anything that I wrote, I’d keep doing it.

I’m still spending an hour a day writing. I’ve skipped out a few times: once I went out that evening and once I had an exam the following day, and was frantically revising. I think that’s pretty good though.

Most of what I write won’t make it to the final draft of course, but at least it’s putting pen to paper regularly. That’s progress of a sort, I think.

I’ve never been a very good knitter. It’s not that I lack the capability to learn. It’s that I lack the patience to practice. I much prefer the feeling of achievement at the end of a project to the actual knitting.

Despite this, seemingly every winter I begin a new knitting project. In order to get to that satisfied feeling quicker, this year I bought ONDAS yarn. It was $10 for 100g at Clegs, which I think is pretty good. They’re having a sale at the moment.


Have you seen the ELICIA yarn from Lincraft? It’s pretty similar. Both are acrylic, only really useful for a ruffle scarf, and very easy to knit. They differ in that the ONDAS yarn looks more like a natural fibre, and has much smaller netting than the ELICIA. This makes it much prettier in my opinion. I have heard that Moda Vera Fishnet Fever from Spotlight is similar to the ONDAS, but I haven’t checked it out myself, as there’s no Spotlight near me.


It took me a few rows of knitting to get into the swing of things. I initially tried to use each hole in the webbing as a new stitch. This gave me painfully tight tension. Now that I’ve loosened it out by knitting into every 3rd or 4th hole it’s much more comfortable to knit.


It’s a quick and easy project that I highly recommend you try. I reckon a night or two in front of the TV is all you’ll need, even if you’re as slow a knitter as I am!

I don’t write enough.

That’s the conclusion that I came to late last night. I don’t just mean ‘I don’t blog enough’. I write when I’m required to by uni. You gotta love externally imposed discipline and deadlines! I also write when I’m so inspired by an idea that a piece writes itself in my head and it refuses to dissipate until I write it out.

Writing does occasionally exert itself as a productive procrastination tool, or it snatches a few minutes of my time on public transport. For the most part though, writing is something that gets pushed around by my other commitments. It’s prioritised by work and uni, and it’s outright bullied by movies, friend-catch-ups, and slothful, stay in bed Sundays.

In short, I want to write more, and to do that, I plan to schedule time for it.

I know it’s the end of June, (National Young Writers Month) and that I was supposed to make a resolution 4 weeks and 1 day ago. I didn’t though. I had exams, and 2 essays to write… and writing got shoved forcefully to the backburner.

Frankly, I think it would be silly to wait around for June next year, when I can improve right now. Besides which, it’s highly unlikely that I’ll actually keep this resolution for long.

I hereby resolve to write for an hour every day. Write anything: poetry, my neglected novel, short stories, blog posts, articles for Student View. Excluded from this are uni essays and reports.

No doubt in a week or two, I’m going to have a busy day, and writing will be pushed to the side again.

As long as I pick it up the day after, or the day after that, I don’t think it matters. The most important part of will power isn’t never succumbing. This, I believe is true of all resolutions: dieting, fitness jaunts, average-raising study plans…

When you break a resolution it’s very easy to see it as defeat, to see the whole experience as over. I think that’s silly.

So you stayed in bed instead of running on a rainy day. So what. It’s certainly no reason to give up on something you genuinely want to change in your life.

Glue the shards of your determination back together and start again.

If you don’t hear from me for a while, hope that I’m pounding out chapter after chapter. If I’m not, I’ll let you about the baking I did while watching Elizabeth Gaskell’s North and South for the millionth time.

Then I’ll re-resolve.

Why not?

Have you been introduced to the wonder that is productive procrastination? In a scandalously modern way, you’ve probably been doing it, without knowing its name!

It’s the reason why last night I knitted a scarf instead of learning 3 declensions for ancient greek. It’s why I’m contemplating baking cookies today, despite desperately needing to do a grocery shop (we have no fruit, veg or milk!). Three weeks ago it was responsible for an empty washing basket, a spotless kitchen, and several dust free surfaces.

Oh exams, you’re the only time of the year that I actually want to do housework!

Let me be clear; productive procrastination has to be productive. Facebook does NOT count. Neither does YouTube.

If you productively procrastinate effectively, you’ll be left with a pile of satisfaction and a hill of complements from beneficiaries (housemates/partners). You’ll also receive a mountain of absolute panic: that 3000 word essay you were avoiding? Yeah. It’s still due tomorrow.

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So I finally finished exams on Thursday… I’d had a two week break in between my last and second last exam, so it was one of those I’ve-had-heaps-of-time-to-study-but-procrastinated-instead exams. I don’t even care how well or poorly I did, I’m so relieved to be finished! I’m sure I’ll start caring again closer to when marks come out, but for now I’m rejoicing in the apathy!

I’ve recovered enough from end of semester exhaustion to submit some poetry to Voiceworks. It’s highly unlikely that they’ll take me: they’re pretty choosy. They give feeback to all submissions though, so I’ll get that. And there’s always a chance…

I’ll let you guys know either way, and theirs no harm in trying. You just have to bite the bullet and risk failure. Many times over, actually. It’s scary, but until you do it, there’s no chance of success. And we all want success, in something or another.

So last Saturday Anne Marie Creations went to another market…

We went to The Handmade Show in Glenhuntly, Vic. While it was still not what we’d call a rousing success (where we sell out of absolutely everything!) it was a vast improvement on last time…

We made two sales. Not great, I know, but it’s a start. Hannah (sister) and I wrote a whole list of things to try differently for our next market on the 23rd. We’re gonna be in Box Hill at Indie Market Place.

It’s a bit more expensive to get a table, but hopefully there are more people there, and we make even more progress!

Any handy market tips would be appreciated 🙂